You're losing friends. Now what?

My Life as a Realtor - Episode 6

There’s this hidden struggle of being present in friendships that nobody really talks about.

Everyone is busy trying to get their lives together.
Busy chasing dreams, working on something, anything.
Busy trying to find that one thing that finally clicks.

And in the middle of all that chaos, it becomes harder and harder to make time for the things that matter deeply like our friendships.

Not intentionally, of course.
We don’t wake up and decide, “Today, I’ll start drifting away from the people I love.”
But it happens quietly.

Because here’s the truth: some friendships don’t end with a bang.
They fade. Gradually. Because we forget to nurture them.

And one of the most important ways to nurture a friendship is simply by being present.

Now you might wonder, How do I even stay present in my friends’ lives when I’m already overwhelmed?

When it feels like I’m drowning in responsibilities and time never seems enough?

I feel you.
Yes, you’re busy.
Yes, you have a lot on your plate.

But if you don’t intentionally make space for your friends, you’ll look up one day and realize they’re no longer around.

And the sad part is you won’t even remember when the drift started.

One thing that has helped me is finding little ways to engage with the things they care about. Even when it’s not my thing.

Like last Saturday, I went for an event that had absolutely nothing to do with me. I didn’t understand a single word they were saying.
Honestly, if they had decided to sell me off, I might not have noticed!😂

But I was there. Because the event was a big deal to my friend.

And I was genuinely happy to be there.
Not because I had nothing else to do, I had plenty.
I actually came from another event, and still had a list of pending things for the day.
But I planned it. I factored it into my schedule.

And let me tell you, it was worth it.

The moment our eyes met in that room, the way my friend’s face lit up…ah!
It was like, “My guy don show!”
If I had snapped a picture of that face, I swear I’d have framed it.😂

What made it even more worth it was what came after.
After the event, the number of times I got, “Thank you for coming” ahh.
It wasn’t just words.
You could tell it meant something.

And that moment reminded me, this is what friendship is about.

Thoughtful gestures. Intentionally showing up.

And that’s the thing: if you don’t plan for the things that matter, they’ll become things you only do when there’s “spare time.”
But let’s be honest, when is there ever spare time?

Sometimes, we even wish there were more than 24 hours in a day.
But until that wish comes true, we have to choose what matters and make time for it.

And I’ve come to learn friendship deserves to be one of those things.

Here’s what I’m walking away with and maybe it’ll sit with you too:

1. Friendship is a muscle, you need to flex it consistently, even when life feels heavy.

2. Showing up means more than being physically present, it’s about being mentally there, making your friend feel seen.

3. Waiting for “spare time” is a trap. If it’s important, it needs to be non-negotiable.

This struggle isn’t just mine. It’s ours, people juggling so much that the connections that keep us grounded sometimes get lost in the noise.

But those connections? They’re the roots that hold us steady when everything else feels shaky.

So, make that call, send that message. Your friends need you.

Ciao!